It’s Not About How You Look

Know what breaks my heart? When a friend I haven’t seen for months tells me she was super nervous picking out an outfit to wear for our lunch date. That is NOT how I want anyone to feel, about me or anyone else. Because although I talk a lot about how...

Reader Request: Constructive Criticism in the Fitting Room

Reader Nancy e-mailed this question to me: I think it would be great if you would write an article about shopping with others. I have problems with this, stemming from shopping with my mom as a teenager. I have had more body issues from those awkward times than from...

Body Image and Paradigm Traps

[This post discusses dieting, exercise, and fat-shaming.] A friend sent me these infographics about cultural paradigms. The two featured are shame/honor which is described as a central paradigm in some Eastern cultures and guilt/righteousness which is attributed to...

None of Your Business

What’s the matter with your life? Why you gotta mess with mine? Don’t keep sweating what I do Cuz I’m gonna be just fine. ~ Salt-n-Pepa, “None of Your Business” A dear friend of mine teaches fitness classes out on the West Coast. She...

Reader Request: Age-appropriate Dressing

Many of you have requested some guidelines for dressing to suit your chronological age and although I’ve touched on some loose guidelines for women over 40, I wanted to address this topic from a more general standpoint. But first, the caveats: There are about a...

Shouldn’t Wear That

“She REALLY shouldn’t wear that.” I’ve heard it. I’ve read it. And back before I really considered the impact of casual language on self-esteem, I even said it myself. But nowadays when I hear that phrase, I absolutely cringe. It strikes me as more damaging than many...

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